The chaplain’s memo seems to begin and end with a commitment to honoring LGBT service members and their families…yet some of the guidance issued seems to alienate some LGBT couples based on the sole discretion of various endorsing agencies.
As we move forward in our fight for full equality in our military, it is important to put faces with names and share the stories of the families being affected by the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA). Our military families are important to us all, as they are the backbone of support to the service member serving to ensure our rights and freedom. OutServe Magazine first met Zachary Evans-Nethers when he volunteered to be on our staff. His ability to manage family life, a full-time job, and volunteer for us, all while pursuing a doctoral degree, amazed us! Zachary is a Captain in the U.S. Army and is married to Marshall. They have two beautiful daughters, Taylor, 11, and Emma, 6, and an adorable dog named Marley. We thank you for your dedication and service!
By Dan Ross
I am married to Lieutenant Gary Ross. He graduated from high school a year early and he enlisted in the U.S. Navy in 1995 at the age of 17. “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” (DADT) was already in effect and the so-called Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) went into effect the following year. After a few years, Gary decided to become an officer and he received an appointment to the U.S. Naval Academy. He began school in 1998 and I met him on a dating website in 2000. We have been in a committed relationship for over 13 years. Gary graduated from the U.S. Naval Academy in 2002 and his class was the first class to graduate into war after the terrorist attacks on 9/11. He has been assigned to several ships and he is currently the Combat Systems Officer on U.S.S. ANCHORAGE (LPD 23) in San Diego.
The following article, “One Couple in the Fight for Life,” first appeared on the website in May of 2012. In light of this morning’s news of her passing, we would like to honor Charlie with a rededication of ourselves to her cause and a committment to broadcasting her legacy. Send your condolences to her family here.
Reserve recruiters dream of people like Morgan Wade walking into their office. She had a sterling service record, was on the fast track to chief petty officer, and qualified in a field where the demand for skilled individuals is high. Top it off with a clear background check and a clean bill of health, and it should be easy, right?
There are days that will stand out in your memory as being a moment when history turns around an event or series of events. Last Thursday was that kind of day.
DoD General Counsel staffers are reviewing the Fort Bragg Officers’ Spouse Club’s refusal to grant Ashley Broadway, wife of Lt.Col. Heather Mack, membership. Pentagon still refuses to provide details on request to grant Same-Sex benefits
West Point was atwitter with love today having hosted its second lesbian couple to legally marry on the hallowed military grounds within a week—the first same-sex weddings at the U.S. Military Academy since New York legalized same-sex marriage last year.
Without DOMA’s demise, military same-gender families will continue to bear an extra financial burden and have to jump through hoops to be a part of the larger military family. They will pay out of pocket for moving their family during a PCS. They will continue to be denied access to military healthcare, base facilities, and certain support services available only to military spouses.